Why women fake orgasm, history and how to detect

WHAT IS ORGASM ?

Dictionary meaning
A rush of sexual excitement; now specifically, the climax or peak of sexual pleasure, which occurs during sexual activity and which in males may include ejaculation and in females vaginal contractions.

And when we say something is FAKE what does it mean?

FAKE : Something which is not genuine, or is presented Fraudulently. In other words, it simply means something which is not real.

Now that we know what fake and orgasm is, let take a look at what fake orgasm is.

WHAT IS FAKE ORGASM?

According to Wikipedia
A fake orgasm occurs when a person pretends to have an orgasm without actually experiencing one. It usually involves simulating or acting out behaviors typically associated with orgasm, such as body movements, vocal sounds, and sequences of intensification followed by apparent release. It can also include giving verbal indications that orgasm occurred.

WOMAN ORGASM? 

According to the world statistics women fake orgasms more frequently than men, with one survey finding that 26% of women fake an orgasm every time they have sex. This is more than the 25% of women who report consistently having an orgasm during coitus. Women tend to achieve orgasm during intercourse less readily than men because most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm and not all sexual positions provide access to the clitoris, which often makes orgasms difficult to achieve for women.
For women in heterosexual relationships, faking an orgasm can also be based on deference to the man, need for his approval, or feelings of shame or sexual inadequacy.

A random-sample telephone poll of 1,501 Americans showed that 48% of women and 11% of men faked orgasm.

Faking orgasms in men becomes easier while using condoms, since ejaculation usually accompanies orgasm in males.

• Other factors 

Reasons for faking orgasm based on ABC News 2004 "The American Sex Survey" poll.

Orgasm is not always achieved easily during sexual activity. For both sexes, the condition of being unable to orgasm during sex is called ANORGASMIA; it can be caused by a variety of factors, including factors in one's life such as STRESS, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, or FATIGUE, as well as factors related to the sex itself; including WORRY, GUILT, FEAR OF PAINFUL INTERCOURSE, FEAR OF PREGNANCY, THE UNDESIRABILITY OF A PARTNER, and the UNDESIRABILITY OF A SETTING. It can also be caused by DRUG USE, including ALCOHOL and other substances, or SIDE EFFECTS from prescription drugs.


People can fake orgasms for number of reasons, such as when their partner wants them to orgasm but they are unable, or when they desire to stop having sex but are not comfortable telling their partner directly, avoiding negative consequences, or for pleasing their partner.

THE HISTORY OF FAKE ORGASM

That women should fake an orgasm was, about the year 2 AD, recommended by the Roman poet Ovid in his famous book Ars Amatoria:

“ So, then, my dear ones, feel the pleasure in the very marrow of your bones; share it fairly with your lover, say pleasant, naughty things the while. And if Nature has withheld from you the sensation of pleasure, then teach your lips to lie and say you feel it all. Unhappy is the woman who feels no answering thrill. But, if you have to pretend, don't betray yourself by over-acting. Let your movements and your eyes combine to deceive us, and, gasping, panting, complete the illusion.”

People can also fake orgasms for reasons of display or presentation, such as during PHONE SEX or in PORNOGRAPHY.

FEMINIST TAKE ON FAKE ORGASM

Feminists have asserted that women faking orgasms is a sign of male-centered sexuality; in a society that celebrates only male sexual pleasure, women may feel pressured to engage in acts that bring their male partners to orgasm but that do not provide them physical pleasure.

Women in a discussion group in 1967 analyzed their motivations for faking orgasms and decided that faking was a response to pressures placed upon them by men. As such, the urge to fake an orgasm often sits in a broader context of other problems with sexual repression or male-centered sexuality. Many of these women also experienced feelings such as sexual rejection by their partners, or on the other hand, unwanted sexual attention; some were afraid to tell their partners what they wanted, and others said their partners resented being told what they wanted.

RESEARCH

One study of orgasm found that women who fake orgasms were more likely to neglect their partners and flirt with other men at social gatherings. The authors of this study speculated that women who fake orgasms may be more likely to engage in sexual intercourse with men other than their partner, although they recommended caution at interpreting their findings due to a small data set and a large number of variables being studied.


A fake orgasm could also be a mate retention technique, as research has indicated that women who perceive a greater risk of infidelity from their partner report a greater number of faked orgasms.

This behavior would be beneficial for the female in retaining a long-term mate, as women who appear to have frequent orgasms have partners that report higher levels of satisfaction in their relationship , in comparison to women that do not orgasm as frequently. 

Some research has indicated that women who fake orgasm frequently have also been shown to display other mate retention behaviors, which include: Mate guarding (e.g. paying attention to who the partner is spending time with and often checking up on them), inter-sexual negative inducements ( flirting with another individual whilst their partner is looking), positive inducements (e.g. dressing in a certain manner to impress their partner), displaying possession signals in public (e.g. kissing a partner in view of other females who are seen as a threat) and intra-sexual negative inducements (e.g. displaying aggressive behavior towards another female who is caught looking at their partner).

The frequency to which these other forms of mate retention occur is directly related to the risk of infidelity; limited research indicates that once the risk of infidelity is controlled for, the prevalence of other mate retention behaviors are greatly reduced.

WHY WOMEN FAKE ORGASM?

The main reasons women gave for faking an orgasm is that they wanted the sex to end as achieving orgasm was unlikely but did not want to hurt the feelings of their partner.

A study of orgasms in female humans suggested that most men are quite accurate in knowing whether their partners faked orgasm or not.  In this study, accuracy was varied (for example, one man suggesting that his partner never faked orgasm, and his partner suggesting that she faked orgasm 100% of the time).

HOW TO KNOW WHEN SHE'S FAKING IT?

There is never a tricks to detect if your partner is faking it or not, as they have master the script already and they act it like it's real. They do this by making all the necessary sign of satisfaction during intercourse. Making it hard for the partner to code.

However, the secret to make her achieve real orgasm lies in your proper understanding and sexual communication. Nothing should be hidden as far as love making is concern between you and your partner and the keywords here is not to be self centered during lovemaking, you also need to put you partner into consideration and pay close attention to her body language to know if you are doing it right or not ( See it here ). You can sometimes ask her to ride you, then observe her movements, cause she's going to move and grind according to the level of pleasure she derives from it.

For some, they will never reach an orgasm without going oral, just know what works for your partner, that's the simple logic.